Looking Good Is Feeling Good

I am the mother of two kids, and for 15 years of marriage, I rarely spent any money on myself.  Instead, I bought clothes and toys for the kids and new items for the house.  Buying things for myself seemed selfish.  Little did I realize that this selfless act was actually hurting me because not only was I neglecting how I looked fashion-wise, I was letting myself go physically.  So, you have to be a little bit selfish and a little bit vain, if you want to stay on top of the way you look and ultimately the way you feel.

Rewarding myself throughout my weight loss journey, and even now as I maintain my weight, I feel is one of the things that helps me stay on course. How many times do you reward yourself with food?  Probably a lot.  Most people who are overweight grew up with food being used as a reward. Food can sometimes be used to fill emotional voids such as to soothe anxiety, cure loneliness or boredom, or make you feel better when you are sad.  To get away from bad habits like these, it is good to keep your focus on other things.  Not that you want to become super vain, but attention paid on how you look will help keep your mind set on the goal.

If you have not lost a lot of weight yet, maybe you are not ready to buy new clothes.  If that is the case, why not try going for a new hairstyle.  Also, a new pair of shoes or some new accessories, like jewelry, can be your best friend.  You will be surprised on how splurging on these things will make you feel pretty. When you feel pretty, or handsome or cool (or manly for the guys), you will be less likely to chow down that candy bar.  Feeling like you look good changes your whole outlook for the day just as the opposite is true.

Sometimes I think we need to be selfish in order to be the best we can be for others. Let me give an example. I feel it is a little selfish to spend time at the gym rather than time with the kids. In the long run though, it makes me a better Mom. I am more healthy and fit so I will live longer and be able to keep up with my kids now and with their kids later!  I also have less stress when I workout regularly.  Now that the kids are older I also feel I am instilling better habits in them.  I try to get them involved too!  Every Monday is DVD workout day with my son and he picks the workout.  He likes the Jillian Michael and P90X workouts. It is fun; sometimes we get a little bit silly, and it is great that he is getting some exercise at the same time.

So, set some small goals, figure out what rewards will keep you motivated, and don’t feel guilty about spending some time and money on yourself.  Trust me, it’s a very good investment.  Remember, YOU are your best friend and YOU have to take care and love yourself FIRST before you can give love to others!

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Becky Pandolfo is a working Mom who has a wealth of experience with many diet and fitness programs.  Her insight and information has helped countless individuals attain their weight loss and fitness goals.  She plants her flag on a small corner of the web called  Go Slim  where newsletters flow and other insightful articles whisper on the digital winds.

Ripped Abs

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I don’t feel I will ever have the abs that I see in the magazines and in the movies and I am ok with that, but I would like to reduce the amount of belly fat that I have around my midsection.

I know that a healthy waist measurement for women at most 35 inches and for men it is 40 inches.  I also know that if I want to see any of the muscle I have built in my core I will probably need to get that measurement below 30, but the waist is the last area of my body that I am still carrying some extra pounds.

I lost the majority of my weight eating high fiber, low fat foods.  I have been coming to realize now thought that it seems research is suggesting that a diet that is lower in carbs, with higher protein and fat is what will really help with belly fat reduction.  Also, many fitness professionals, trainers, etc preach eating higher protein to help build the muscle we are working so hard on.

So, what does this all mean?  Well, you have to do what works best for you.  If you want to give this type of eating plan a try then think eating vegetables (especially greens), lean meats, nuts, seeds, little starch, and no sugar.

To monitor your progress with respect to working on your 6 pack take a waist measurement today and every month for the next three months.  Good luck!

The Weekend

I was reading some posts from other bloggers about how they are tired of the “shame” people either feel or think they should feel for eating things like sweets.  The feeling from the post and most of those that commented was that we should not be obsessed with how we look or what we weigh or what we eat and be able to enjoy cookies or candy if we so chose.  I think that is awesome!  I love the idea!  Unfortunately, I can’t share it.  I envy those that do.  Really!

I don’t know what the problem is or why I cannot adopt that philosophy, but I do know that if I did I would most definitely gain a LOT of weight.  I could blame it on my parents for not teaching me self-control when it comes to eating, or I could blame my ex-husband for never making me feel like I was attractive, but instead I am going to blame myself for having the bad luck to be born with “bad body chemistry” because I cannot eat cookies and candy without remorse and maintain a healthy comfortable weight.  It is the guilt that keeps me in check.  Sure, I eat cookies and ice cream and whatever I want, but the guilt is what keeps it in moderation so that I do not go crazy and indulge every day, day after day.  As it is, I still need to cut back in order to lose the additional weight I so desire.

That leads me to the weekend.  It was not horrible, but I did have popcorn at movies…twice!  We went out to dinner and split and appetizer of sweet potato fries, and a couple margaritas, along with shrimp tacos for a meal.  That was a splurge!  On the positive side, I did step aerobics on Saturday, ran 3 miles on Sunday, and ate very healthy the rest of the time.  So, all in all….it was a decent balance.  Still, I need to tip more to the deficit side to get where I want to be. So, with that in mind, I will continue on my journey trying to make better choices more than not.

If you want to join me…the challenge is to lose 10 lbs.   My goals for this week to help achieve that goal is to be sure I drink a lot of water which will help to keep me full, I will take Knockout supplements to also help control cravings, and I will get at least 30 – 60 minutes of exercise each and every day.  What will you do this week?  Will you take the challenge to lose 10 lbs with me?  We only have one body and one life and I want to live mine feeling good about myself and feeling fit!  The feeling of being fit and able tackle any challenge is better than any cookie or ice cream!!

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Becky Pandolfo is a working Mom who has a wealth of experience with many diet and fitness programs.  Her insight and information has helped countless individuals attain their weight loss and fitness goals.  For more information on her and the products she recommends visit: http://www.GoSlimFL.com

The beginning…

Like many of you, I have always struggled with my weight. All my life I wanted to be like the thin girls, and it has taken me a long time to realize that I will never be. I am curvy. That’s it. I said it. I still don’t like it, but I feel better than ever. It is the way I was made, so I have decided that I need to do the best with what I have.

I was not very heavy when I was married, but after the wedding I started to gain weight. We were always eating out, and my husband was able to eat all day and not gain any weight. Before I knew it, I was a big girl. Probably weighing in at about 180 lbs. I knew that I did not feel good, so I took action and joined Weight Watchers. I lost most of the weight I had gained and was working out quite a lot when I became pregnant with my first child. At the time she was born, I weighed a whopping 224 lbs! I stayed heavy for quite a while after she was born until I decided once again, to go back to Weight Watchers and get back to feeling good. I lost a good portion of the weight, and was feeling pretty good weighing in at about 160 lbs when I decided it was time to have our second child. I did not gain nearly as much weight with this go around, and I lost it again fairly quickly afterwards. Towards the last few years of my 15 year marriage; however, the weight started creeping back on. I did not feel good about myself. I was divorced and felt very unattractive. It took me a couple of years to get on my feet again and feel in control enough to get back to a healthy weight, and this time I did more than go to Weight Watchers. I joined the gym. It has made a huge difference in my life! For the first time ever, I felt healthy and fit even if I did not look much different from when I had lost weight before.

So, I decided to write about my experiences…past, present, and future…in the hopes that my struggles, accomplishments and motivations will help someone else who is feeling bad about the way they look to feel better. You see, it is really not how you look on the outside, but what is going on inside that makes you feel good about yourself. Once you start being active and getting physical you will start feeling good on the inside and looking great on the outside. As I am writing this today, my weight is still not where I would like it to be. I will share with you what motivates me, healthy eating tips, recipes or articles, fitness tips and info, and also information on healthy supplements that I recommend. I hope you will keep reading and together we can feel great and BE SLIM!

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Becky Pandolfo is a working Mom who has a wealth of experience with many diet and fitness programs.  Her insight and information has helped countless individuals attain their weight loss and fitness goals.  For more information on her and the products she recommends visit: http://www.GoSlimFL.com